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Big Gay Book Club

Join a group of gay peers beginning late-January 2022 as we explore empowering ourselves as gay men through exploring themes including rage, shame, how we compensate, how we can heal ourselves, skills for cultivating authenticity, and how we can move forward as we create a strong foundation for thriving as gay-identified men.

This virtual book group will gather via Google Meet for 8 weekly, 1 hour sessions. The group will be structured to provide a safer space to reflect with peers on the topics presented in the book.

If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact Erik!

about the BOOK

From the back cover:

Today's gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, “Are we really better off?” Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs's own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, The Velvet Rage passionately describes the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.

about the AUTHOR

Alan Downs, Ph.D - Psychologist and Author

For the past 25 years, Downs has worked with gay men from all walks of life who have been blazing the trail for us with their own triumphs and struggles. As a young gay man, he found very little guidance on what it means to be a content gay man. It was clear, both then and now, that there are some big, and sometimes confusing differences between ourselves and other men. Downs has dedicated much of his professional career to understanding these differences and to pursuing the solutions to some of the more unique and perplexing problems of gay life that can hold us back from realizing our dreams for life and love [...] We don’t have the traditions, the social structures or the mentors to show us the way as do other men in our various cultures. It is up to us to discover how to find joy, love, meaning, friends and our own family as gay men.

How it works:

Once registration closes, Erik will send a Doodle Poll to schedule the sessions based on the best availability of all participants. Each of the membership levels below will explain how to get the book, don't worry, Erik will email you to let you know any additional steps. As for any book group, you get out of it what you put in, by registering for the Velvet Rage reading group, you are agreeing to do the readings between each session and be prepared to share your experience of the reading.

1. Click "Register Now" below and choose a member level--each level has different pricing and benefits.

2. Erik will personally email you the information you need in order to get your book.

3. Watch for Erik's Doodle Poll email, and respond quickly so we can get our sessions on the calendar.

  • Velvet Rage by Alan Downs
    Begins Late January 2022
    via Google Meet
    Join a group of your peers in exploring the challenges surrounding growing up gay in a straight man's world. Together we will learn more about ourselves as gay men and ways we can be resilient in the face of homophobia and toxic masculinity.